Are we being too picky

Woman today are in getting their education and they are making more money than the men. Back then we used to depend on the men to secure the home now we can hold are own and don't need a man for anything. We can buy our own home, take care of the kids, buy our own cars. Black woman today are doing big thangs with their lives. But are we going to suffer from this success later on in life. Do we really understand what it means to be independent? Because half of us women say we do but in reality we don't, and we push good men away by being picky and judgmental toward men because the last guy we dated treated us like crap now we look at all men the same. I don't know. I did a lot of thinking today.